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A Mother’s Tears Brings About the Best for the Moment

A mother’s tears are powerful. It could be a weapon that can change circumstances or a child’s life course when poured with much love.

To cry or not to cry? If you’re a woman it is alright to cry your heart out. But if you’re a man, you have to hold yourself. At least that is what we used to hear. But do we all agree?, I don’t. Yet today, it is also important to ask, “What can a mother’s tears do?”
“I have nothing to offer but blood, toil, tears, and sweat”. Winston Churchill
I am a mother yet I don’t cry often. But like some men and women that I know, I too cry whenever I am led to intense prayer.  Shedding tears also when I have to say goodbye to some nice people knowing I may not see again. Also, I shed tears when my friend’s dad died and when touched by God’s Words. But other than these, I can’t remember crying quite often.
Knowing that tears are in a way, beneficial, I reserved them for special moments and people. One moment was when I become a mother. On becoming a mother, I learned that a mother’s tears can cause circumstances to change.

My, when did that happened?

It was late in May when I gave birth to my son. At first, everything went smooth and quick. People say that I am more than blessed not to share in the pain of birth labor. I actually gave birth on the first day of my maternity leave. The tedious turn-over of responsibilities at the office may have contributed to the sudden rupture of the membrane. Yet, all I know that day was, they rushed me to the hospital and a few minutes after, my son is being welcomed to the world.
Everything went so well and easy, and I was feeling grateful and contented. Our relatives also are quite excited. My son is the first grandchild on both my family and that of my husband’s. Reason enough for his arrival to the family much awaited.

An uninvited guest

But when everything seems perfect. We have an uninvited guest that is not quite accommodating. The storm. During my son’s first 14 days, the sun could not show up as the rain kept pouring. Day after day, we waited for the sun to greet us, but he couldn’t show up. Then one day my friend came by and said some weird things and insisted that we have to go for a checkup. Being the first baby at home, the family got alarmed and all agree that we should bring him to the hospital.
Upon arrival, a nurse ushered us to the emergency room. Then, what used to be a peaceful day turned into a chaos. My intuition suggests that something is wrong.

An Unnerving moment for mothers

I stood there speechless, yet as I see all those movements, I become more convinced that something is wrong. I watched as a nurse get a blood sample, while others are checking my son’s vital signs. All there expressions are telling me that my son is in danger. Add to that, the nurse who is trying to insert an IV on my son’s arm is having a hard time. Giving up, she inserted the IV on one of his legs instead.
After some time, the doctor arrived. He came in asked for the records then check on my son. His facial expression tells me, this got to be serious. Finally, when he asked for us, the parents my heart started to pump harder.
He approached and explained that all symptoms show that our son is suffering from sepsis. Whatever that is, I didn’t understand so he went ahead and explained the treatment process. My son needed incubation right away. Has to take some medicines and antibiotics and will be confined to the intensive care unit. And if there is no progress with his health, they have to work things out with his blood.

A mother’s tears are often held back for them to become strong

I could not fully absorb what the doctor was saying as my tears were about to flow. For watching my son from a distance, I realized that his tiny body laid on that bed is quite a pitiful sight. Also, he’s been crying but no tears flowed from his eyes. His feet though are aimless in kicking, which seemed to me, like a drowning person trying to swim for life. Looking at him that way, I decided I can’t cry. Even as my tears are about to flow, I held it back and thought, I must be strong for him.
“Tears are a positive representation of who we are. It demonstrates not only our deep emotional connections with our world – past, present, and future – but allows us to visibly celebrate that fact. They are also scientifically proven to make you feel better. ” Dr. Nick Knight
But what could be wrong if I shed a tear after all this is my son? Tears, as mentioned above, are not signs of weakness. Still, I decided to hold my tears back because I know that the moment, I let down my emotion I won’t be able to think straight.
That first night at the hospital, I stood at the NICU watching and staying alert for anything my baby would need. It was the night he cried the most in pain and in discomfort.

A mother’s tears held back even when hoping for the sun is all that she can do

As the night dragged on, I longed for daytime and wished for the sun. Yet again the day came but the sun never showed up. I am feeling more helpless than ever and my face is as gloomy as the weather. Add to that, I am almost depressed that I can’t breastfeed my son nor can I cuddle him anytime I want. He has to stay incubated and I can only stay up to attend to his needs. These were the longest days and nights of my entire life. And whenever he cries in pain, I cringed and wanted to hold him as it pains my heart feeling the pain in his cries.
Relief came when we got transferred to our room. Things are getting better aside from the growing concern for my son’s skin color and weight. At our room, I often stood over his incubator hanging on for him. Though often times feeling sleepy and drowsy, I still can’t bring myself to sleep. I drew my strength whenever I see even a small change in his color or see a flicker of hope in his eyes. My hope for the best made me strong those days.
Finally, after two weeks, the weather got better. My son also had completed his medication. His doctors then discharged him, but with strict orders that I commit to regular checkup. I said yes to all their instructions said goodbye to those kind hospital staffs and head home.

A Mother’s tears held back as she hangs on for a small flicker of hope

Home finally, and though tired and weary, I am so free. Some relatives and some friends come by to greet us. But soon their whispers sounded louder than noise for my ears. The sad truth; my son is tinier now than when he was born. He also weighed much lighter while his eyes are also quite big for his tiny face. And his skin, the color is unacceptable, it is too dark for him.
But I did not see those. All I saw is the sign of hope that my son is fighting for his life. Other’s however, saw a life that is ebbing away. Though they hoped the best for us when we were still at the hospital they were expecting a better result, not this. So, I thought, I saw my son’s progress chart and his test results were fine, could the doctors have been mistaken?

When a mother’s tears flow it storms

Confused, worried, tired and exhausted. I locked myself with my son in the room. I laid him on the bed and watched as he sleeps, he seemed to be enjoying peace. Then I realized that he seldom wakes up. In fact, my mother had scolded me for not waking him up so he could drink his milk every now and then. At that moment, I’m feeling sudden goosebumps, and then my tears started flowing. I did not feel them coming at first, they come flowing all of a sudden and I didn’t dare hold them back this time. I know I have come to my end.
Yes, I finally shed them, those tears that I’ve been holding back then now flows. Free and seemed endless. They flowed like water on my face and dropped like raindrops on the bed. My uncontrolled sobbing complemented my tears. And for the first time after my son’s birth, I was in harmony with the storm that is pouring uncontrolled on the rooftops
But somewhere in my heart, is a whisper, a whisper of hope! Crying and sobbing, I took the courage to whisper a prayer. It was too soft for me to even hear but too loud to be ignored. A prayer that is full of heart and a prayer that had changed my perspective as a mother forever. I prayed,
“God, I’m surrendering my son, he’s yours now. I’m sorry that I can’t take care of him. I tried but my best did not work out to keep him alive and healthy. Take good care of him yourself for I know that you love him more than I do.”

Sacredness in a mother’s tears

I could not finish off my prayer for I went on crying my heart out in utter surrender. My God must have loved that small prayer. For I never had to worry about my son ever again. Those gloomy days started becoming brighter. The rain finally had enough and had allowed the sun to show up and greet us every morning. From that moment on, regardless of what I see on my son’s progress, I did not waver. I put my hope to the relief and peace I received after crying my heart out in surrender to God.
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love”. Washington Irving
Weeks and months pass, and the whole family was happy again. We know that we have been through another storm of life but had come out victorious.
Today, as I stood on the terrace, I saw my son running home from school. Then I heard his footstep as he climbs up the stair into the room. On his way, he saw me and said, “Hi mom, I’m home”. He then threw his bag on the bed and run downstairs for some snacks.
I smiled and committed to memory how, as a mother, I held my tears back to be strong but finally, let them flow so that I can have him back again. A mother’s tears have the power to move the heart of God and when God moves on your behalf you’d be more than blessed.
“A mother’s tears held back for her to become strongerer but made to flow for the better” –

Lovely Home Achieved with this Proven Principle that Work for all Times

A lovely home: Why you must have it and here is a proven way to do it.

Who doesn’t want to live in a lovely home? Well, everybody does in fact, you want to have one but can’t? And many times you tried re-structuring your home so that it would look lovely but you were never happy about it.
Think about how you feel if your spouse and children can’t wait to come home because they love being at home. Or whenever your kids are in trouble, their first thought of refuge will be your home for they find security there. Or when a friend comes to visit, they will find solace and comfort in the confines of your home.
I am often attracted to a very well structured home one that is lovely to look at. In fact, I love doing clippings and have a collection of beautiful pictures about it. I also have my own ideas on how to build one.
But achieving a lovely home, or that dream home is overwhelming and tedious. And if you are not doing it with the right wisdom, you will get burned out and left with unnecessary expenses.
Let me walk you through a time-tested principle, one that works well but does not cost you a penny. A principle that will help you achieve that lovely home no matter where you are coming from. When practiced right, this satisfies not only you but your family. Not for a short time but for a lifetime.
This principle works not only for your quest for a lovely home but also on other aspects of your life. With this one principle to apply, we can create a remarkable change.

The Principle: Inner Order Outer Change

No, this is not about meditation or any self-development method. It is more than that. This principle is about tapping into a Force that will bring order not only to your inner self but to your whole being.
This is the principle that brought this whole place we live into existence. It is also the principle that holds the same for our benefit. And the very principle used when the first home that ever existed came to be.
For we heard it said,
“Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.” Genesis 1:2
Wherever you are, and whatever are your struggles for your home and family. It is nothing compared to how the earth was before God started working on it.

Inner order outer change principle sets that

1. Only God can bring order inside and outside of you because He knows you.
2. Your hard work for your home and family to have that lovely home, will not stand for a whole lifetime but with God, it will.
3. There is no limit to how this principle can work. It works for you, your family and for everyone.
4. It is a done for you principle, no sweat and not hard to do. It is only a matter of faith.
Some warning though, applying this principle in your life may change how you define a lovely home. Your priorities may change, your thoughts may change but still all depends on you, your choice.
Choosing to go for it, read on.

Inner Order Outer Change: For a lovely home.

Where to begin and how?
1. You and your family
For a quick story,
When God completed the Garden of Eden, he never stopped until the man came to be. After which, God said, it is good, satisfied, he rested. The man completed God’s creation.
It is not what you put in your home that counts. But first, the people who live in your home. We all agree that the greatest treasure at home is not those jewelry, or decorations or expensive utensils. The treasure is you and your family.
During creation, God made sure that everything is good before he put the man in it. In the Garden of Eden, man is the treasure. So it is in our homes. Without you or your family, your home can never become a lovely home.
2. Your faith in God
Now the other side of the story,
Adam and Eve sinned God has to banish them from Eden? God has too because man has surrendered their position to Satan. Having been ousted from that position, man can no longer have the right to rule over God’s creation.
For this reason, it is necessary for Christ to come and redeem humanity. First to restore us back to where we belong, His presence.
Now, what does that means, you have a home, a family but without Christ, you can never have a home that is lovely.
You might say, “I have accepted Christ long time ago but why is it that nothing seems to have changed? My home is still in chaos, my family is all nowhere.”
Keep reading to know what you must do. But first, understand God’s purpose of saving you and claim what God has promised for you. From you being a mere human to a new creation, added to God’s family and a citizen of his Kingdom.
So claim that promise and start living as a real child of God. Faith, after all, is making those real things in Christ real in our very lives.
3. What you must do

Allow Christ to first establish His home in you.

For it is only when with Christ that we find fullness and satisfaction. That joy is there. That love can grow and that satisfaction achieved. The physical beauty that we see must be an outflow of who we are inside.  
The way we live; our clothing, what we say or do are but an outward expression of who we are inside. If our inner being is all about who we are and what we can do, we express the same in our words and action.
We have to go beyond ourselves and surrender to our Maker. We must transcend what our limited self can do. Thus, when we love, we don’t love because we chose too. We love because have learned to tap into the unconditional love of God.
But if after being a Christian, we fail to see a change in our lives and family, it is time to settle with Christ. To make him not only as Savior but also Lord. After all, he has taken care of everything, we have to learn to trust and believe.
When you settle with Christ, you will have the wisdom to manage your home well. The wisdom that is in line with His principles. A well-maintained house will forever be empty without Christ. And a home without Christ will never be a lovely home.

Allow God’s Word to dwell in you richly

To have God’s Word dwell in us you is something we Christians must do every day. Our ultimate Christian goal is to practice Christ-likeness. Not forced but as a flowing stream, starting from within. Drip by drip until it overflows. 
And we have God’s Word to follow so that God can achieve His purpose in our very lives. When we dwell in God’s Word, we gain strength, we gain wisdom, we gain direction and purpose. Our eyes will be open to the truth of who God is and what is His purpose in us. 
God’s Spirit works in line with God’s promise. He works to make real his promises in our lives. As a result, you will see yourself changing. You will be smiling more, contented, having peace despite the chaos, and loving your family more while knowing how to serve them better. It will be wonderful. 
You will be amazed your prayers are being answered. And that is because your thoughts and heart’s desire are becoming more Christ-like. Then one day, people around will also see the miracles that God is doing in your life.

Allow the Spirit of God to lead you 

This is where the beauty of a Biblical principle is. Unlike all other principles, you have to force yourself to do it. But with Biblical principles, you always have the Spirit of God leading you.
You have an unending supply of resource to tap on anytime anywhere and in all circumstance. A guiding source, not through a simple manual but the Spirit of God in you.
This principle simple as it may seem but have worked from generation to generation. It is a living principle that is not bounded by time or whatever trend that would come after today. It is the very principle I and my family is living with.
With inner order and outer change principle, what is a lovely home is thus not limited to what the physical eyes can see. But a lovely home is a home that God himself approves of and one that makes him say “it is good.”
And that is where the limitation of this principle lies. This principle only works for those who put their faith in Christ. For it is only Christ that satisfies God. Make sure you have set your faith in Christ right.
If you are confused and is not sure about your faith in Christ, watch this short video and let Dr. Charles Stanley lead you in the right faith.

If you find this article helpful and know someone who needs it. Please share the love and do leave a comment below.

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My name is Glen Palukpok, married to a pastor and a mother of two kids. I've been with the Christian mission for so many years and have seen how most family members are left out not knowing Christ or not growing in their faith. But I have also seen how powerful it is when the Word of God is brought to our homes. 

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